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Family Drug Support Now Online for Families

FDS Support Online3 April 2017
 

Tony Trimingham, the Founder and CEO of Family Drug Support (FDS), has described how proud he is with the development of the first Australian interactive online resource designed specifically to support families struggling to deal with drug and alcohol problems.

 
The New resource is available here:  fdsonline.org.au

This project was funded by the Commonwealth Department of Health through the National Ice Action Strategy. It has been produced by Readymade Productions in collaboration with FDS staff and volunteers.

The resource centres on the documentary film of a family support group, and will be of particular benefit to families in regional and rural communities who don’t have ready access to support group meetings. The new resource, together with FDS’ 24/7 telephone support line, will help ensure every family can access support when they need it.

Walking a Tightrope

Alcohol and other drug use and violence: A guide for families
 
Alcohol and other drug use and family violence often occur together. Families already coping with a family member who uses alcohol and drugs can also be exposed to violent behaviours. Living with a family member who uses alcohol or other drugs and who is violent can be frightening. It can feel like walking a tightrope. Specialist support and medical attention may be helpful.
 

Coping Tips

Coping with other people's anger

If we react to others defensively by attacking or withdrawing, conflict often increases. If, instead, we respond assertively we can help to bring the conflict to a level at which emotions can be reduced and negotiating then becomes impossible.
 
Saying "enough" or "I don't want your anger". Firmly putting our hand up as if stopping traffic. Everyone has the right to say to someone else that they are angry with them. No one has the right to be abusive and aggressive with someone else.
 
Making an"action-response-outcome" statement. The three parts of this are "When you...I feel...and I ask that". This is saying how someone's behaviour leads you to respond and what you want to happen, e.g. "When you break our agreement not to use drugs in our home, I feel so angry and exasperated with your behaviour".
 
"I ask again that you honour what we agreed". What is important is that action describes the user's behaviour and not them as a person, response is about your reaction and outcome is what you want and not just a demand.
 
Being a 'broken record'. Keep repeating what you want and don't let yourself be deflected away. "I know you say you are making an effort but I still find myself having to deal with your bad manners".
Compromising or playing for time now and negotiating later when dialogue is possible.
 
If all of the above feel too much of a risk because you feel threatened, then withdraw from the situation. This could be anything from a few moments apart to ending all contact.

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